Saturday, March 23, 2013

Thoughts on 25 Years of Marriage

This weekend my husband and I will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary.  I don't necessarily think that makes us experts on marriage, but I did have a few thoughts, for whatever they're worth.

I think the best way to start a marriage is with friendship.  The best way to keep a marriage strong is with friendship.

Respect is part of love, and both partners need it.  Put-downs and personal attacks have always been off-limits in our marriage.

Passion in a long-term marriage is more like banked coals than like a bonfire.  It glows just as hot deep down, but isn't as showy on the surface.  The way we've kept the fires banked so they never go out, is to never stop flirting.

We tried gender roles.  Then we climbed out of the boxes and tried just being ourselves and supporting one another in being who we are.  That worked much better.

Believing the best of one another helps us be our best to one another.

Trying to see through one another's eyes really helps.  So does really listening.

In case of conflict, a little humility goes a long way.

When in doubt, try 1 Corinthians 13.

That's all I've got this week.  We're leaving today to spend a weekend on the coast!


Anonymous said...

Happy anniversary, Sis! Have fun on your special weekend. -- Me

Hannah Thomas said...

That is so awesome KR!

Congratulations! There is so much wisdom in those words.

Anonymous said...

Happy Anniversary, Kristen.

Anonymous said...

Don't even give us a thought! Just enjoy your anniversary together.